There are times in life where it is inevitable that we will feel slighted, irked or pissed. Someone cut you off in traffic or the barista overcharged you for your daily chai tea latte.
These are fleeting moments that usually pass quickly.
Then again there are incidences such as when your best friend steals your significant other and the pain hits at a much deeper level—leading to raging resentment.
The definition of resentment is “A feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong. Anger about someone or something unfair.”
It is normal to feel this way for a time. You process the injustice, let it go and keep moving forward.
But what if you can’t?
These strong emotions take up residency within you and grow. You are haunted by thoughts of what they have done.
Ultimately you will find out that holding onto this resentment is detrimental to your health.
For your overall wellbeing this translates to:
Do not allow others to rent space in your mind.
The mind is your inner sanctum and it should be closed to squatters. But if you are feeling persistently miserable, you should take a long look in the mirror. Be aware you are the host to all that enters.
Think of it like this—If we were going to ‘rent out space’ in any capacity, one would expect some sort of compensation. You most certainly would not want a ‘renter’ to stay for free and continuously cause damage to your personal property…would you?
By using this analogy I hope it provides a light-bulb moment of clarity toward changing the mindset that has held many of us in a captive state.
Know that the conscious has a tendency to fixate and become a slave to or held hostage by the very person you believe has done you wrong.
If you desperately want to be rid of them, then why would you offer them a place to dwell? Especially, if it were harmful to your wellbeing.
If you wish the person would exit your life then you must stop inviting them in mentally. Keep your brain under lock and key. Intruders can only come in when your defenses are down.
Be diligent and learn to control your thoughts.
Holding the door open and encouraging the sequence of repeating and rewinding our grievances only enhances our level of distress. It breaks us down, wears us out and opens us wide for dis-ease.
Only welcome in what adds value and nourishes your soul.
If you are going to expel your energy, have it be directed toward releasing negativity, not adding to it.
Take responsibility for your thoughts because they belong to you.
Learning to let go of resentment can be challenging but it can also change your life for the better.
Breaking the Chains that Bind
Start by taking a deep breath.
Swiftly kick your ego to the curb, where it belongs.
Resist and reject the mind’s attempts at harboring a grudge.
Focus your attention at regaining an objective perspective of whatever the situation.
Strive to reach a place of neutrality.
Take another deep, cleansing breath.
From this point of view, do you see things differently?
That mental shift will be your miracle.
Ask yourself, who is dumping the stress I feel at my doorstep?
Hopefully now you have had a spiritual awakening and realize that by allowing others to ‘rent space’ in your mind that it can be deadly to the landlord.
Move forward, resentment free.
As an extra precautionary measure of protection, do not forget to install the neon flashing sign that reads, “NO VACANCY.”
About the Author
Kaylee is a co-founder of Good JuJu For You. She has been mindfully aware of and practicing her psychic abilities since she was a child. Led by her spirit guides, Kaylee has obtained a vast wealth of knowledge and experience with the ethereal realm and alternative modalities of energy healing.