Are people consciously aware that they are acting like total a-holes or is it an automatic response? Are these individuals oblivious to how they are being perceived? Are they so caught up in their own thoughts, feelings and emotions that they are completely unaware of how other humans view and react to their words and actions? A self-absorbed unenlightened mindset to life’s challenges seems to be the underlying factor. If you are consumed with self, how could you consider anyone else?
People with this mentality seem to think it is all about them. What they need, what they want, what is in it for them. They could truly care less about me, you or anyone else. As long as they end up on top of the heap, smelling like a rose. They would not be affected by how many of our corpses they had to step on and climb over to get there.
I assess this as assholic behavior and I would define it as misguided and delusional.
Are these individuals so self-absorbed with their own lives that they do not stop to consider that they inhabit this planet with approximately seven billion other people?
Could these souls be deemed as narcissistic?
A narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. People with this disorder often believe they are of primary importance in everybody’s life or to anyone they meet. A personality disorder is an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates from the norm of the individual’s culture.
Because narcissism seems to be a pervasive problem in today’s society, there must be a key component that is influencing its rapid spread. Perhaps we should investigate possible sources of narcissism such as our air and water quality (haha)…not just our upbringing. Childhood influences may not be the only factors that cause someone to become narcissistic.
A narcissist is excessively preoccupied with personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity. They are mentally unable to see the destructive damage they cause to themselves and others. These individuals believe the world revolves around them. They exhibit arrogant behaviors and have a lack of empathy for others. Narcissists pay attention only to themselves and the things that affect them personally. They require excessive praise and compliments. If they are not worshiped they react with hurt and rage. Criticism is NOT a word in their vocabulary.
Have you ever confronted this type of personality?
They will contradict themselves and the facts. They will flip a script on you. They will say you are lying and crazy. You will waste your time and breath trying to reason with someone who is void of empathy. They tune you out. They do not choose to hear you because other people’s feelings are of no consequence to them. One who holds narcissism in their heart, holds fantasy in their brain.
It does not matter how gently you broach the fact that this type of behavior does have its consequences. A true narcissist will say and do anything for self-justification. They cannot and will not see they have a problem. It is always someone else who has the problem and needs to change. They are perfect and superior. A narcissist feels entitled to whatever they can take. They also feel entitled to exploit other people with no awareness regarding repercussions. They have a dismissive attitude toward other people’s feelings, concerns and property. They are completely disconnected with reality, and as such they inaccurately interpret other people’s words and actions. They believe they are liked and respected despite their history of exploitative personal interactions.
Narcissists tend to be unwilling rather than unable to change their character. This is a behavioral pattern that can be unlearned if first one is willing to recognize that they portray these characteristics of this disorder. The core feature is antagonism. Narcissists have a grandiose, attention-seeking and callousness which puts these individuals at odds with other people. Narcissists expect automatic compliance, otherwise look out.
Consider these Narcissistic traits:
- Lacks empathy
- Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
- A sense of entitlement
- Is interpersonally exploitative
- Often envious of others
- Requires excessive admiration
- Shows arrogant behaviors and/or attitudes
- Believes he or she is special
- Preoccupied with fantasy
Now I ask you, is this just a bunch of psychobabble verbiage wrapped up in a convenient tidy term called “narcissism” or could we just use a layman’s phrase and call it what it really is, “what a self-centered asshole!” That is my diagnosis.
About the Author
Kaylee is a co-founder of Good JuJu For You. She has been mindfully aware of and practicing her psychic abilities since she was a child. Led by her spirit guides, Kaylee has obtained a vast wealth of knowledge and experience with the ethereal realm and alternative modalities of energy healing. Kaylee is a shamanic healer and New Age artist.