There are all kinds of endings in this world.
Many of us have experienced our parents divorcing. Some of us have dealt with the death of a family member, loved one or pet. The broken heart syndrome occurs when a close relationship that we are invested in, care about and are connected with ends. Whether it be friends, lovers or relatives, the emotions are that of loss. The amount of stress and distress felt by all those involved can be overwhelming, confusing and depressing.
Why purposely end a bad relationship? Well, that is a complicated question. But, the bottom line is because you are not happy. There may be many reasons why you are not feeling the love. In fact, if you are contemplating ending a close relationship you probably have a lengthy list of justifiable explanations for your unhappiness.
One incidence may or may not break the bond. More than likely it has been multiple hurtful incidences that continue to occur that have led your thinking to call it quits. If there is a pattern that ultimately results in causing you pain, it is time to get out. Long periods of constant mental (emotional) pain can and will do damage. This will go from mind to body. Stress can manifest into symptoms experienced on a physical level such as headache, stomach ache, pain in the neck and/or lower back, and sleeping too much or not enough (insomnia).
Examples of why a relationship is doomed to fail
- You do not respect each other
- There is no trust
- Being taken for granted
- Not treated according to expectations
- Experiencing toxicity
- Making excuses
- Consumed with negativity
- Constantly frustrated
- Feelings are not reciprocated
- Relationship seems one-sided
- The bad outweighs the good
- Draining your vitality (life force)
- Poor communication
- Bickering and Arguing
- Blaming each other
If you have come to the conclusion that there is no saving this relationship, then you must brace yourself and prepare to tell the other person. This requires courage and you must be convinced of your decision. Stay focused. Write down on a piece of paper all the reasons why this relationship is not serving you well. Draw strength from your list instead of squirming out of what you know will be an uncomfortable and sad ending.
The finale is a face-to-face moment away. The closer it gets to the impending confrontation, you should not be surprised that the reality of the situation starts to creep into your thoughts. Fear of the what ifs and how cutting this person out of your life will ultimately affect you.
You may begin by mentally running possible scenarios such as:
- My routine must change?
- What if I’m lonely?
- Who will I talk to?
- What about companionship?
- I have to forge new relationships?
- Will I allow anyone else to get close to me?
Now is a good time to re-read your list of why this relationship is not salvageable. If you are doubting yourself, ask for support from neutral friends and/or family. Don’t get lost in a sea of opinions. You are the only person who should decide what is right for you. This is your opportunity to regain your emotional equilibrium. If you deem this an unhealthy relationship, trust your instincts.
Determine the location where you should meet. Face-to-face is preferable but not always possible. If this is the case, the least you could do would be to pick up the phone (call, not text). Prepare a method of delivery and choose your words carefully. No matter how gently you tell the other person, it will not lessen the blow. A bitter argument could ensue and lead into a highly charged situation.
Be open and honest. Make it perfectly clear that it is over and why. Insist on cutting off all contact. Put physical distance between you and the relationship. This is necessary while you clear away the cobwebs and transition. You need this time for your own personal growth. How you are feeling is not permanent. You will regain your power and renew your spirit. I know this is easier said than done. Remember you are ending this relationship for your own good.
You choose sanity over insanity.
You choose stability over instability.
You choose to be happy.
About the Author
Kaylee is a co-founder of Good JuJu For You. She has been mindfully aware of and practicing her psychic abilities since she was a child. Led by her spirit guides, Kaylee has obtained a vast wealth of knowledge and experience with the ethereal realm and alternative modalities of energy healing. Kaylee is a shamanic healer and New Age artist.